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Starting with my stats, I’m 6’1” and 199lbs (I have an average body, but I’m working on it). I’m inked and pierced. I have blue eyes and really, really dark blond hair-most people think it’s brown. I’m mostly a bottom, but I’m more versatile than my profile percentage suggests.

After years of trying to figure out exactly what I am in terms of everything I still haven’t been able to discern if I’m a boy or a slave at heart-I’m definitely not a pup, but I do have pup like qualities (and have been known to arf and woof on occasion-maybe I just haven’t found the guy who could bring out my inner pup, who knows). That being said while I prefer subbing, I can and do quite often top and enjoy that too (binding and beating on other boys is fun), and for some reason, my favorite types to top are puppies. I approach topping the same way as I do bottoming-it’s about the other guy and pleasing him (please note that doesn’t mean if I’m topping I’m going to let a bottom push me around-what it means is that I’ll take the time to figure out through conversation prior to and also as I go along what works really well for the bottom and what he needs). I guess it all comes down to this inner need I have to please; I don’t quite know what that says about me, but hey, whatever works, right?

In terms of play, I get into a lot. I love gear. I’m more into leather, but hey, gear in general works well for me-leather (and racing leathers), latex, uniforms, boots, cowboy, sports gear, etc; but even with that, I believe the other guy is more important than the gear involved Bondage is definitely on the list-actually BDSM in general is a pretty good place to start. I love breath control, cigars (not a must but nice) and gasmasks and hoods Flogging, tt, some types of cbt, being pushed, power exchanges, plugs (and assplay), water sports, whips, canes, etc, etc are also on the general list, but the list isn’t that important, it’s just general likes. Moving aside from a list, I guess the important thing is being creative, not scripting play but rather, letting the play go where it goes (there’s a difference between Domination and scripting)… Play should evolve organically and playing with someone for the first time is kind of like giving birth to something. I do have hard limits, most of them are common sense things (NO BB, no animals or kids or women, No permanent damage, etc), but I also enjoy very much being pushed further in play activities. Above anything else playwise, I love really connected play and this is especially true of me as a bottom. The stronger the connection with the other person, the more connected the play, the higher the level of trust in the other person the further the play will normally go. Sex is great too-both oral and anal (I DON’T BB EVER), oh, and rimming is on this list too. Guys, the biggest sex organ in the body is the brain-how come we all seem to forget that? If I’m bottoming for you, get inside my head and play with it. I’ve had experiences with friends where I’ve begged for things I don’t particularly like playwise, but enjoyed the activities because they really turned on who I was playing with.

Pain scenes for me are not about the endorphin rush; pain is a wonderful tool. Through pain, trust levels with the other guy can be increased, bonds can be created, it’s about giving myself over to the other guy (or, if I’m topping, the other guy giving himself up to me).

Generally speaking if I don't know a person I won't address the person as SIR. As for my general type, I really don't have one but cleancut with an edge works well. I'm always looking for new friends, playmates, and if I met the right guy, an LTR is possible. The space in this profile only goes so far, I have a more complete copy that I can email if interested. I have a livejournal and my name there is daveyboynyc (it's mostly locked to friends so give me a heads-up if you friend me).